Emma Watson recently stood up and delivered a potent speech about gender equality at the UN Headquarters in New York City. You may also remember how she also came to the aid of Jennifer Lawrence when her (and others) had nude photos stolen and leaked to the public.
It is not unreasonable for someone to act in this way, no matter what some detractors might say. In fact, I find it astonishing to think that in this day and age there are people who would even protest such things, but it happens. Quite frequently. And it’s a problem. Emma’s speech at the UN has been met by both praise and criticism, but when a group of individuals from 4Chan threaten to post private nude photos of her because she gave a speech in support of women’s rights, shit has gotten out of hand.
Only a Coward Would Need to Hide Behind a Keyboard
This kind of harassment is commonplace now that idiots can basically post insane bullshit wholesale all over the internet while remaining completely anonymous. That’s right, all of their dumbfuckery is done from the safety of hiding behind a keyboard. They don’t even have the stones to stand up for all their ideas. You know, the way Emma Watson does. So her balls are already bigger than yours, fellas. Like I said, this happens all the time. Here’s another example that made headline news about a female gaming developer who was harassed by douchebags. These are the same types of people who post personal information all over the internet while hiding behind the safety of their own anonymity. Like this asshole, who cried foul when his own info was brought to light following the nude photo scandal.
There’s Only One Reason to Be Intimidated by Strong Women
The very first question that always comes to my mind whenever someone complains about women making a stand in their own interests is this: what are you so afraid of?
Real men are not insecure.
There is nothing to be afraid of. Only people with low self esteem feel the need to tear others down to make themselves feel or look better. Only pieces of rotten shit do that sort of thing, and it’s because when it all comes down to it, it’s a lot easier to keep other people down than it is to build ourselves up. Because at the end of the day, we know our worth. Those who have a higher sense of self don’t need to hold others back, we encourage them. We build them up. Because they are no threat to us. The more confident you become, the less threatening everything around you appears to be.
It is no secret that only weak men are intimidated by women.
There are a million variables that contribute to this type of behavior. Jealousy, frustration, rejection, insecurity, feeling a loss of control, etc. All of these issues can be fixed, but what they all boil down to is fear. What are you so afraid of?
We all experience fear, I don’t care what some jacked-out ass-hat says to the contrary. Anyone who says they’re not afraid of something is a filthy liar. It’s okay to be afraid. What’s not okay is to respond to that fear by being a complete and ruthless dick to whomever or whatever caused you to feel discomfort. That is the difference between courage and cowardice. A coward hides and instead of facing and overcoming his fear, he throws rocks at it hoping it will go away. True courage is facing your fear, even though you’re scared. Courage doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. If that was the case, you’d be brave just stepping off the sidewalk. If you’re not afraid, then it’s not actual courage. Courage means being scared and doing it anyways.
Confident Men Have Nothing to Fear
You don’t make progress by staying in your comfort zone. Being a dick simply because you’re threatened or it makes you feel better is unacceptable. Those who have to hold each other back from success are only afraid that it will highlight our real value. Because those people can’t bullshit themselves when it’s all said and done. They know they’re pieces of shit.
Those are just the dicks, though. There are plenty of other people out there who just lack confidence, ones who don’t need to be assholes to other people to feel better. Like I said before, it’s okay to experience fear. We all get down on ourselves from time to time, it’s human to have doubts. But when your insecurity is so high that you have to overreact negatively to perceived threats, you have a problem. You’re like a lion freaking out over a fly that lands on it. You may think you look like a lion, but real lions don’t do that shit, so it doesn’t do you any good. You only highlight your true character.
The more you react to others, the less secure you actually are.
If you find yourself reacting and getting bent out of shape over everything all the time, you’re more like a pinball than a pillar. Relax, dude. By reacting to everything, it only illustrates that people can easily get to you. It’s easy to push you over the edge. You not only appear less grounded, you add a lot of unnecessary stress into your life, which exacerbates just about everything.
Nobody Likes an Insufferable Asshole
People have the ability to reason and think about things, so sometimes you can get away with being an asshole. It all depends on the circumstances. Sometimes it’s understandable. Except when it’s not. And people can tell. If you’re going to be the not-understandable kind of asshole, you also have to be prepared for getting called out on your bullshit. Bullies often cry and hiss and fuss and play the victim whenever people call them out on their bullshit.
Like I said before, you’re a coward if you can’t own the things you say. If you were so confident that you were right, you wouldn’t need to hide. The other issue is that being a prick is going to start pushing people away from you. People gravitate towards that which makes them feel good. Assholes aren’t included in that category. Unless you’re another asshole. The only people who are going to want to be around you will be other insecure dicks.
Tons has been written about this. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Ben Franklin said that I think. Hell, there’s even a whole book called “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. What do you suppose that book is about? It sure as hell isn’t about pissing people off. Being awesome opens up a lot more doors than not. The bigger your social circle, the easier it will be to do, well, just about anything. You’ll make more friends, meet more potential partners, have better job and business opportunities. The list goes on. You’ll even get laid more.
Who doesn’t want to get laid more?
Despite what you may have heard and what you might think you know, women really don’t want to date assholes. They can’t shut up about it. That should clue you in on the situation. Assholes may get laid a lot more than nice guys, but you have to remember that it’s because a lot of those same assholes who are hogging all the pussy also have more confidence and are a lot more adventurous. They are exciting.
That’s not you.
Remember what I said about being afraid of women? That’s not confidence. That’s insecurity. Those assholes who get laid may have confidence, but they have other issues that get in the way of awesome relationships, and it’s the reason women eventually get sick of their bullshit. So being a dick is not the correct answer for anything, really.
Strong, confident men have nothing to worry about. They are not intimidated by women. They don’t tear them down. They back them up. They want them to succeed. They contribute.
Think about that. Think about why you feel the need to belittle others, to keep others down, why you can’t be a positive influence, why it makes you feel better to do what you do. Think about how that’s working out for you right now. Think about what you want in life and ask yourself if being an asshole is in any way conducive to your success. Ask yourself if being a dick does anything worthwhile at all, besides being a band-aid for your wounded pride. Then ask yourself why you’re so afraid to do something about it.
Because being awesome and confident will, in fact, get you laid. Being disrespectful towards anybody is unacceptable, so why would you save it all for women? Being disrespectful won’t get you anywhere. It’s only cool to the other assholes. But that’s not the point. Being awesome to other people is just the right thing to do.